Before I dive right into this article, I should warn you. What you are about to read is a heavy combination of personal experience, astute observation, and unrelenting research. This list was more or less something of a personal checklist of mine to use when evaluating a potential new female prospect in my life and it has been extremely good and accurate for my friends and I.
A lot of women like to flirt. It’s just something that women do—especially if they’re single. It’s how they communicate with men that they find interesting or attractive in hopes of fixing the problem of being single (Even if its only for one night). The problem comes when there is a lot of what girls have come to call “innocent flirting” going on with other guys when she’s out and you can observe it.
This is a dead give away to the potential your girlfriend has for cheating on you. The worst part is that no matter how much she actually loves you or cares about you, if she has very little power she is going to eventually cheat on you. She may probably feel bad about it to, but people who get cheated on don’t really seem to have great sympathy for someone who says they feel bad after doing something that probably felt great.
She may have an amazing heart, but if her mental strength is low in certain situations she’ll just give in to any guys advances. It’s like a drug addict or a fat person. They may not want to use the drug or over eat because they know what it’s doing to them, but they have not developed the will power to resist urges. All it takes is some guy (usually an ex-lover or a “friend”) rubbing them the right way and they give in to their body and urges just like that despite what they may feel afterwards.
Be wary of any girl that says it’s ok to go on dates with other people, kiss other people, cuddle with other people of the opposite sex, gives her numbers in bars, etc. While it may seem like at first things like this incredible and gives you lots of freedom, but if you are like most guys you’ll eventually wonder if she is only staying at those self imposed borders. Chances are she is not because boundaries thin the further they go. For example, a person who has never committed a crime will have a hard time doing armed robbery. But someone who has done armed robbery probably won’t have to make much of a jump to kill someone.
Most girls, if they like you, will not come right out and tell you that she thinks its okay to cheat on their boyfriends because most times they actually have not even come to the realization within themselves that they find it ok. A lot of girls cheat because they think that guys are going to cheat on them anyway, so they just do it. There are lots of crazy things that a person can think, but you cannot ever expect them to ever tell you if they are cheating on you or they think its ok. Asking that question is a waste of time unless you are searching for emotional responses and body language clues. For the most part, this is just one of those things you’ll just have to trust your instinct on, but you will get a few clues.
I find that lots of girls will cheat on their boyfriends because they are not satisfying them. That satisfaction is across all spectrums. It could be physically, emotionally, mentally or even socially or financially. Maintaining a relationship is tough work, especially when you consider that you need to make sure you simultaneously are satisfying or engaging your woman on all fronts so she continues to see value in you as her best choice. Sad as it is to realize, once you no longer satisfy her on the levels most important to her, then she will start to think about other people that might but due to emotional investments, probably will not just leave you. She just might find someone to enjoy without your knowledge.
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